Think the art of seduction is a solely male pursuit? Think again.
Yes, being seduced is nice, but doing the seducing can be pretty thrilling, too.
In fact, too many women wait for the guy to make the first move. If you rely entirely on him, things might never get started. Besides, women bring an entirely fresh, creative, and sexy angle to seduction that guys not only enjoy, but seriously appreciate.
If you want to retain the spark in your relationship or spice up your sex life, here are 5 of the most effective ways to seduce your man.
1. Write Him Sexy Notes
These can range from the traditional love letter to the significantly more steamy and sexy notes. You can send him emails at work or text messages to his cell phone, but don’t neglect the personal touch of a handwritten note.
You can leave these little love tokens in plain sight (where appropriate) or hide them somewhere where he’ll eventually find them. It’s a great way to show him you care and, depending on the note’s content, it can be incredibly arousing!
2. Pamper Him With a Massage
Sometimes men like to play a slightly submissive role to their lovers and it can be nice for us to ‘take charge’. Try offering your lover a back and shoulder massage which could turn into a full-body rub.
Be sure to pay extra attention to the nape of his neck, as this can be a highly erogenous area for men. Work your way down the whole of his spine and notice how he turns to putty in your hands.
Bear in mind that firm kneading of his muscles will probably feel good, but follow his lead ask him what feels good and where he’d like you to explore further.
3. Surprise Him With a Phone Call
When a friend of mine is feeling amorous, she calls her husband just before he is scheduled to leave work and tells him exactly what she wants to do to him when he gets home. Needless to say, on these occasions, he gets home in record time. This can be a great way not just to tease him, but to excite yourself, too.
4. Put on a Show
We can be aroused by a whole range of stimuli, but for men, it’s usually all about the visual. They get turned on most by what they see, which is why strip clubs and lap dancing are so popular.
So, why not give him a little visual treat by doing a private striptease or dance? And if you don’t look like a catwalk model, don’t worry. Men are nowhere near as critical of our bodies as we are!
5. Spoil Him With a Romantic Night for Two
After that first flush of romance, life, work and family can easily make spending time alone with your lover difficult.
Don’t wait for him to make a grand romantic gesture. If you have kids, get a sitter and take him out on the town. Alternatively, spend a cozy night in, or take a picnic to the park or a local beach.
These are just some of the methods you can employ to seduce your man all of them inexpensive (or free) and effective!